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Filed under: Jens,Marriage,Milestones — Amy @ 12:00 pm

Today is our 9th wedding anniversary.  All this time and 2 kids later, Jens can still crack me up better than anyone.  He’s a terrific husband, father, and life partner.  He has a heart of gold and it still amazes me that after all this time he continues to love me the way he did when we were newlyweds.  (Obviously I managed to hoodwink him somehow.)

I love you Babe, and I look forward to the next 9 years and beyond!

Filling Space

Filed under: Blogging,Koren,Marriage,Parenting — Amy @ 7:21 pm

I know it’s been a little quiet around here lately.  I don’t like that.  Because as much as I love and adore you beautiful people and it warms my heart to read your caring and funny comments, the truth is that I do this blogging thing for me. 

For my own ridiculously deficient memory so that later I can look back and relive all those moments I would otherwise have forgotten.

For all those nostalgic moments when I see my kids growing up entirely too fast and wish I could hold onto those pieces of their youth just a little tighter, for just a little longer.

And for my children, so that when they’re older they can look back and see what it was like to be their mother – the milestones, the incredible highs, and yes, even the lows.

So when I don’t get around to posting frequently, it amounts to lost time.  A wider gap that will probably never be filled in. 

It’s not that every moment needs to be chronicled – I’m not under the illusion that our lives are that important or interesting.  But I find that a lot of the moments I treasure in retrospect are not necessarily things I think are that momentous at the time.

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I took Koren to the ENT today, and it looks as though our dear little boy will be getting tubes.  This has been a long time coming and can’t happen soon enough, IMHO.  He’s been on a steady stream of antibiotics since January, which bothers me on a couple of levels – not the least of which being that they haven’t actually helped.  He STILL has ear infections.  Because antibiotics just keep bacteria at bay, but they don’t help the root of the problem, which is the mass of fluid buildup that he just can’t get rid of.

He has made some improvement over the last week after a particularly strong dose of antibiotics (the shots, I don’t recall what they’re called), and he is no longer doing the incessant Nazgul shriek that had me clawing at my own ears.  And despite the still-infected ears, he’s a generally happy little guy, which tells you that they must have been REALLY painful before (“puss” is not a term you want to hear when the doctor is describing your child’s inner ear).

So on that front, it looks like we’re heading toward the light at the end of the tunnel.  And not a moment too soon.

All in all, the timing of the ear infections was pretty rotten because we had JUST gotten him to start sleeping through the night.  But with ear infections and illness, teething, crawling and the general 8-Month Sleep Regression upon us, it pretty much created the perfect storm of CRAP NIGHTS.  As in, Child Can’t Sleep AT ALL Unless Mom is Holding Him in the Rocking Chair nights.

There is nothing that throws my own frailty in my face like losing sleep.  I mean seriously, I know people who are dealing with cancer, ailing parents, financial horrors, and children diagnosed with debilitating diseases.  And here I am, crippled into a sobbing nervous wreck because ONE of my otherwise healthy children has an ear infection and I’ve lost some sleep.

Thankfully, I have a pretty stellar husband who, when I finally asked for some help because I could not handle another night of it without throwing myself down the stairs, took over and let me get a full night in peace.  I woke up a new person, with a clear head and a greater appreciation for this partnership called marriage.

The sleeping thing?  It’s still not great, but it’s getting better.  As I type this, Koren has been asleep in his own bed without assistance for almost 3 hours.  And now I’m going to shut up about it before I jinx it and mess up a possible night’s sleep.  Ciao!

Sick of the Sick

Filed under: Family,Marriage,Photos,Travel — Amy @ 6:47 pm

Oh look!  A Blog!

Yeah, it’s been a bit quiet around here lately.  I’ve been rather busy, a little from travel, but mostly busy with sick kids.  They’re going to have to give me a “frequent customer discount” at the pediatrician’s office.

Koren has been battling the same ear infections for 3+ weeks.  It started directly after a weekend of sick, feverish baby (and subsequently, sick, feverish 3-year-old), and led to grumpy recovering baby until the antibiotic took effect.  We thought the antibiotic took care of the problem, but then we spilled it half way through and didn’t refill or finish the full 10-day run (I know, Mother of the Year Award, here I come).  So a week later we found ourselves back at the doctor and starting a second round of medication.

With Koren on the mend once again, we left the kids with my parents and went out of town for Jens’ cousin’s wedding in Denver, Colorado.  It was some much needed time away and a very enjoyable trip.

More pictures of that are below if you log in.

We returned to a rather grumpy baby and the realization that the second round of ear medication hadn’t done a blessed thing.  The next day, our little guy declined further and developed a bad case of croup that made both him and me miserable throughout the night and next day, as he was unable to sleep.  Steamy showers only seemed to help mildly, but since croup is viral that was the only solution available.

Another trip to the doctor netted us a new round of medication for the double ear infection (that’s #3, for those of you keeping track at home), some steroids for the croup, and the news that it would probably get worse before it got better.

It is now a week later, and a rough week it has been.  He’s still messing with his ears, so if that continues past Friday I’ll have to take him in again to assess the ear infection situation.  But his mood has improved dramatically and it’s actually possible to make him smile again.  I’m so glad to have my happy little guy back to his normal self.  Though I will say, I’d forgotten how difficult this kid is to hold on to when he’s well.

Unfortunately, now Kaelin is sick again.  She’s had a cough on and off for the past week and today had to stay home with a low-grade fever.  Probably my fault for rejoicing yesterday that I would actually get to spend my Mother’s Day Out time NOT taking care of sick kids today… obviously that didn’t work out.  At least taking care of a sick 3-year-old is easier than taking care of a sick 8-month-old.

So that’s what’s been keeping me busy.  Fun times.  One of these days I’ll actually get some time to myself during the day and then maybe I’ll get a load of laundry done or something.

In the meantime, here’s more Colorado pictures:

Me and my unruly hair.

Again, with the unruly hair.

This is where I TOTALLY ATE IT on the ice and ended up with a bruised and sore hip for the rest of the trip. Grace, thou eludes me.

Jens’ uncle (father of the groom) and his wife.

Jens’ cousin (brother of the groom) and his girlfriend.

Jens and his grandma.

Jens’ grandparents.

The Happy Couple.

The Happy Family. This child stayed quiet during the entire ceremony and subsequent Latin Mass. My kids can’t stay quiet through a 5-word sentence. If they could bottle their secret and sell it, they’d make a fortune and put Benadryl out of business.

This picture is begging for a Caption Contest.


Filed under: Marriage — Amy @ 7:57 am

Because I know you guys can’t get enough about me and Jens.  Or maybe you’re just dying for a break from all the political blogging.  Got this one from Erin.  Though I’m going to cheat and copy/paste some of our About section…

1. Where did you first meet your husband?
Though growing up in what seems like opposite ends of the world (Jens is from Alaska, while I’m a native Texan) we met at Seattle Pacific University in the Theatre department during my freshman and Jens’ sophomore year.  During the first quarter we were cast in a fellow student’s directing project, “Words, Words, Words”…as monkeys.  I dragged Jens all over Seattle looking for costumes (He had a car.  I didn’t.) and now I have blackmail pictures of him in a beanie.

2. What was the first thing you said to your husband?
Ok honestly, I have no idea.  Probably something totally boring like, “hi.”

3. Where was your first date?
Um… depends on what you would qualify as a date.  We went on a couple of outings, like bowling, that were SUPPOSED to be group events, but somehow nobody else ever showed up.  There was a long period of time during which I was in denial that we were actually dating.

4. Where was your first kiss?
In the common room of our dorm.  I had recently come out of a relationship that left me rather anti-physical-affection (I wouldn’t even let Jens hold my hand) and one day he decided that he had had enough and just kissed me.  And left me standing there in utter shock.  And I suddenly realized that maybe kissing wasn’t so bad …

5. Did you have a long or short engagement/courtship?
It was kinda long.  We had to wait until Jens was out of school, so we dated for about 15 months, then were engaged for another 15 months.

6. Where did you get engaged?
Jens flew down to Houston to surprise me and sent me on a wild goose hunt which ended with a huge bouquet of gorgeous roses and him showing up at my door.  Of course, he was bent down on one knee so I couldn’t see him and thought there was nobody at the door when I looked out the window.  When I finally came back and opened the door, I was so happy to see him that I kept trying to pull him up off the ground for a hug, completely clueless as to what he was doing.  Sometimes I don’t pick up on things too quickly.

7. Where did you get married?
Leavenworth, a Bavarian village in the mountains of Washington.  It was perfect.

8. How did the reception go?
Great.  We had a great turnout, despite the fact that the wedding wasn’t local for ANYBODY.  The weather was beautiful.  Apparently the food was spectacular, though we didn’t get the chance to eat any of it.  But people were still talking about the food at our wedding several years later at other weddings we attended.

9. How was the honeymoon?
Lots of fun.  We went to the Bahamas and relaxed at an all-inclusive resort.  There were giant thunderstorms every night that would circle the island and move inward, so we would watch the lightening from the beach for an hour and then race back to the room before it started to pour.  We tried to get drunk off the free alcohol just for fun, but it was SO BAD that we just couldn’t do it.  By the end of the trip, we were ordering virgin daiquiris.  The only downsides were when we discovered that Jens is allergic to the sun, and a minor case of food poisoning from one of the restaurants.

Husband Meme

Filed under: Marriage — Amy @ 6:17 pm

I think I’ve been tagged.  Not sure because when someone says Amy, I’m never sure if they’re talking about me or the other 6,000 Amy’s in any 2-mile radius.

1.  What is his name? Jens
2. Who eats more? him
3. Who said, “I love you” first? him
4. Who is taller? him
5. Who is smarter? Him.  Dude has a wicked memory, especially for numbers and song lyrics.  He still remembers the phone number to the Pizza Hut in Anchorage.
6. Who is more sensitive? Depends on the issue.
7. Who does the laundry? Me
8. Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? Right side when you’re facing the bed?  Or when you’re in it?
9. Who pays the bills? Him
10. Who cooks more? Cooking?  What’s that?
11. Who is more stubborn? Our daughter.  And Jens will tell you she gets that from me.  I don’t know where he gets this stuff.
12. Who is the first to admit they are wrong? Him.  I’m never wrong, so it doesn’t apply.
13. Who has more siblings? We both have one.
14. Who wears the pants in the relationship? We both like pants.  I’m not really a “dress” person.
15. What do you like to do together?  Play with the kids, watch movies, play games, travel, dream of traveling, plan traveling (though that’s mostly Jens, I hate making travel arrangements)
16. Who eats more sweets? Me.
17. Guilty Pleasures? Um… playing sports?  Maybe McDonalds?  I dunno, he’s practically a saint.  We won’t get into MY guilty pleasures…
18. How did you meet? We were cast as monkeys in a play in college.  And I dragged him around town looking for a tutu because he had a car and I didn’t.
19. Who asked whom out first? Jens asked me.  Though I was in denial that we were even dating for several weeks.
20. Who kissed whom first? He totally took me by surprise.  He likes to do that…
21. Who proposed? Jens.  Again with the total surprise smile – he was supposed to be in Minnesota and wound up at my doorstep after sending me on a scavenger hunt.
22. His best features and qualities? He is patient and good at keeping his head on straight when I tend to get wrapped up in things.  He makes me laugh, and makes me think.  He’s considerate.  He’s an excellent father.  He has a way with people that I will never understand but always admire.  He’s hawt. 

And he’s totally going to get an ego boost out of this.

Bragging Rights

Filed under: Holidays,Marriage,Travel — Amy @ 8:52 am

Hey, guess what I get to do for my birthday?  No, really, guess.  Nevermind, I’m too impatient so I’ll just tell you.

I get to see the stage version of Lord of the Rings… IN LONDON!

Jens has planned a weekend excursion and we’ll also get to see the King Tut exhibit at the O2 Dome, which sounds really cool.  One final getaway before we have 2 kids and never get to travel internationally again…

Truly, truly I say to thee… my husband rawks.

Hey, Guess What?

  • I hurt myself from yawning too big.   I think I overstretched the tendon that connects my jaws or something.   I know.   I’m now in competition with Sammy Sosa for lamest injuries.   I wonder if Workers Comp covers that kind of thing.   It was the boredom brought on by my job that forced me to yawn, after all.
  • I dreamed that I had an affair.   With J.   No idea who I was actually married to in the dream.   But Jens’ conscience got the best of him at the last second and he backed out on me.   So I woke up guilty, bummed, grumpy, and horny.   I hate dreams.
  • After 4 years, my dog has just discovered that he has a penis.   He has been licking it for 48 hours straight.   It’s driving us crazy, especially since he sleeps in our room and he’s decided that licking himself is more fun than sleeping.
  • Don’t buy hair dye that costs less than $10.   Especially if you use white towels and don’t want to see it bleeding onto your towel 4 days after you’ve colored your hair.   Just saying.
  • Also, don’t believe the stuff on the box of cheap hair dye that says it comes with highlights and lowlights and multi-faceted color that doesn’t damage your hair.   Bollocks.
  • Tomorrow we close on the house we’re selling.
  • Tomorrow we’re supposed to close on the house we’re buying.
  • Yesterday we found out that the house didn’t appraise for near what we had agreed to pay for it, so now our financing is messed up.
  • The appraiser totally discounted the sunroom, which would have made up the difference in the appraisal price.   He refused to count it as part of the square footage of the house (as a previous appraiser had done) because it didn’t have duct work or something.   But since nobody else in the neighborhood has a sunroom, he couldn’t find “comps” so he just didn’t give it any value at all.
  • Because, you know, if nobody else has one then it must have been free to install.
  • Apparently if you can’t find one just like it then it’s easier just to pretend it doesn’t exist at all than to do some more research and assign a value based on an educated guess.
  • Lazy ass.
  • So we’ve asked the relocation company to lower the price on the house because it doesn’t make much sense to pay more than a house is actually worth.
  • But it’s a relocation company and it will probably take them a week to get back to us because when you have 150 middlemen, things don’t move too quickly.
  • And we don’t know what they’re going to say.
  • So we don’t know if or when we’ll be closing.
  • Annoying, since we’re supposed to move out of our house in 2 days.
  • Regardless, we have to disassemble and pack up our computer tonight or tomorrow, so I’ll probably be offline for a few days.
  • Bummer dude.

Unable to remember the last time I was this mortified

Filed under: Are You Kidding Me?,Jens,Just Shoot Me,Marriage — Amy @ 6:34 pm

The underwear was still in the dryer when Kaelin and I got through with our shower this morning. With a towel around my head, I peeked out of the upstairs bedroom door to see if there were any observant passersby through the large window that looks in on our balcony. No one was out there, so I did my Lightning Judo Sprint and rushed across the balcony to the stairs. J gives me a hard time for being paranoid about somebody looking into our house and seeing me naked.

The blinds on the rest of the front windows were closed, so once I made it down the stairs I was pretty much safe. I had left Kaelin in the shower and she was calling something to me, so I stopped at the bottom of the stairs and called back to her.

It was then that I noticed some movement directly in front of me. A man with a tape measure standing at the back door (which is one giant window) was throwing his hand over his eyes and whirling away from the door.

Shrieking some expletive or another, I pulled out another one of my Ninja moves and dove across the living room into the bathroom. The dog started barking. I was trapped in the bathroom with no way to get to my clothing. J came down the stairs after the barking dog and I whimpered something to him about who the hell was looking into our back door and PLEASE BRING ME SOME UNDERWEAR.

He did, but not before stopping by the bathroom to laugh at my misfortune, not unlike the time I stood around laughing at him when Kaelin sprayed him with globs of projectile poo three times during the course of a single diaper change. We have that kind of supportive relationship.

Evidently, the Title Company had sent some guys over to do a land survey. J knew they were here because he answered the door while I was in the shower. He swears he yelled upstairs to me that they were here.

I don’t know what was worse: the fact that I full-on exposed myself to a perfect stranger, or his reaction of running away at the sight of my nudity. Perhaps it’s time to do some grooming…

My Husband Rocks

Filed under: Marriage,Such is Life — Amy @ 10:49 pm

Sensing my frustration earlier today, J surprised me with a plane ticket to New York City to go visit Joi in a few weeks.

Do I have the best husband or what?


Filed under: Marriage,Moving — Amy @ 2:33 pm

Ok, it appears that I have been called out on my assumptions in the last post. I hereby pronounce that the dining room chairs look GREAT and are the perfect color.

Garden Ridge is having a 50% Off Sale on their baskets, which is great because I’ve found baskets to be my lifesaver in this whole “organize everything and leave nothing on top of any visible horizontal surface” movement we’ve been ordered to undertake. But now I’m out of baskets and have to go back to Garden Ridge (again) to get some more.

But I guess I can do that when I take back the artwork that my dear husband brought home.

It seemed like a good idea at the time

Filed under: Marriage,Moving — Amy @ 8:49 pm

I just sent my color-blind husband to Garden Ridge to pick out a piece of artwork that “matches” our newly created dining room. And four dining chairs that “match” the artwork we already have. Am I a glutton for punishment or what?

Food, Injuries and Anniversaries

Filed under: Food,Health...or Lack Thereof,Marriage — Amy @ 11:58 pm

How is it that I can go to the store and spend over $200 in groceries…and have nothing to eat?

How is it that sometime between last year and this year I got old, and can no longer play a game of rec league softball without injuring myself?

How is it that even when I have my Fathers Day gifts planned out weeks in advance, I still find myself skipping church to make an emergency run to the store on Father’s Day?

How is it that 6 years could have passed so fast?

Today, was our 6th anniversary. Jens’ dad was still here so we spent much of the day hanging out with family, then took him to the airport and had a nice dinner out at Fogo de Chao. Apparently FdC has grown more casual than I remember it being. Not only were lots of people wearing jeans*, but there were a suprising number of families there with youngish children.

In general, when a restaurant costs more than $50 per person, I tend to assume that jeans are not a appropriate attire and that children are … discouraged. Evidently I’m wrong about this. Of the three families (with children) sitting next to us, one showed up with McDonald’s Happy Meals for their kids. What’s the point of that? Find a babysitter. Your kids would probably appreciate it.

The last time I ate at FdC, which I think was 2 years ago, I gained 3 pounds from that single meal. And they stayed on. Hopefully that won’t be the case this time. Though I can say it would be worth it. That place rocks.

Afterward, we rented a movie and spent the remainder of our Anniversary on the floor in front of the big TV. Which is really the only way to spend an evening after you’ve just eaten 5 pounds of meat.

Happy Anniversary to my mostest favoritest person in the whole world who I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with!

*Which was doubly annoying because I had griped at J for wanting to wear jeans and made him change into slacks before we left, AND I would have been so much more comfortable in jeans myself because I could have worn shoes that allowed me to wear an Ace Bandage on my ankle. Instead, I went booted and braceless and my ankle hurt. Stupid softball.

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